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Chaunie Brusie

Mom | Writer | Nurse

October 9, 2013 By Chaunie

Not “Just” a Mom

Today after baking up a batch of pumpkin muffins (recipe here), I thoughtfully invited myself down to my neighbor’s house to share the fall goodness for a lovely play date. (I’m generous like that, letting my kids go play somewhere else that I didn’t have to clean up, apparently…)

As we settled in, drinking delicious coffee (sidenote: it pays to befriend a neighbor who was formerly a barista!) and watching our kiddos play together, we talked about the jobs that we do “on the side” of motherhood.

And listening to her, one of the most traditional mothers that I know, it occurred to me how often we women make the mistake of judging others mothers on if they’re “mom” enough.

Honestly, breastfeeding debates aside, I can’t think of a single topic that ignites more passionate debates, more doubt, or more heated arguments than what is the right amount for a mother to work-if at all.

I’ve struggled with it myself, feeling bored some days, overwhelmed the next. And I definitely hear other mothers who don’t work a job that you know, pays money, downplay their own roles, saying things like, “Oh, I’m just a mom….”

Excuse me for saying so, but allow me to say it:

No mother is “just” a mom. 

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I see it in the mother who teaches voice lessons while her daughter plays in the next room. 

I see it in the mother who plans the best Halloween party ever for her son, every last detail perfect. 

I see it in the mother who helps her farmer husband, fixing him a sandwich when he comes in from plowing up the fields. 

I see it in the mother who works hard at a her job to support her family, gazing at her daughter in adoration every night when she comes and finds her already sleeping. 

I see it in the mother who posts a zillion pictures of her daughter on Instagram, capturing every sweet moment of a childhood that will go by too quickly. 

Every mother, whether she works in the home, out of the home, or solely at home, is a person beyond a mother, no matter how much her identity is made up of through motherhood. 

Every mother, no matter how many children she has or how many children she will have, matters to her home, her community, and to the world.

Our interests beyond our worlds of motherhood, our work, our passions-they are not separate from the title we took on the moment we gave away our hearts to the little ones who will forever hold them. I really believe that our talents and abilities as individuals can meld together to make us better, stronger mothers. They are intertwined.

Our children will grow up, we will learn to live with our hearts always feeling like there is a piece missing and we will somehow find our way in a world without children, when all along, we felt like we would never see a moment alone-it will come all too soon. And although there is honestly no other title that we could ever want beyond that simple, one syllable word first uttered from the mouth of babes,

We have to remember:

No mother is “just” a mom.

We are so, so much more. 

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Filed Under: Motherhood Tagged With: can i stay at home, how do working moms do it, just a mom, motherhood, SAHM, stay at home moms are lazy, WAHM, working mom 1 Comment

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  1. Nicole says

    October 22, 2013 at 12:05 am

    This is so, so true. We love your blog over at Great Moments in Parenting, an open blog where moms and dads share the agony and ecstasy of life with kids. We’d be honored if you submitted a photo (kids in costumes? Who can resist?), parenting “moment” or essay. We’re happy to link back to your website. Here’s the link to submit: http://greatmomentsinparenting.com/log-in/. Thanks for considering it!

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Hi, I'm Chaunie and I'm glad you're here! I admit this blog is a bit rusty, as most circa 2010-blogs are, but like us elder millennial moms ourselves, I figure it can still get the job done, am I right? So here's the deal: I'm a mom of five kids, teen to toddler, I've been a writer for about 10 years, mostly penning health articles in exchange for money to pay my bills, but after I was laid off, I decided it was now or never and I'm writing my first novel in a month. And I want you to be part of the process with me. So subscribe and get weekly emails with my latest juicy drafts. It's going to be fun. Read More…

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