So Ada is scheduled to have her surgery on Monday. I’m scared, but trying to remain calm, cool and collected about the whole ordeal.
I read on the paperwork from the hospital that one of us is allowed to go back with her while anesthesia puts her to sleep. I had no hesitation about who would go back–of course it would be me. I’m her mom. Didn’t even think twice about it.
That is, until I did.
This morning, while laying in bed, pretending not to hear my children awakening, I started thinking: what if the situation was reversed?
How would I feel if Ben was the automatic? The given for such a huge situation as surgery? If I was forced to sit in the waiting room while he went back and held our daughter’s hand?
I would feel terrible.
Aside from the fact that I would want to see everything and know that she was ok, would be the fact that I would feel my motherhood would be somehow threatened; If I’m not comforting my child in her time of need, I am failing in my basic duty as a mom. Kids need their moms when they are hurt–isn’t that some sort of law? What kind of mother would I be to sit in the waiting room and read an outdated People magazine?
But maybe I’m being selfish here. We are equal parents, are we not? If I’m being honest, Ben is actually way better than me in some regards–dealing with a flailing, wailing temper tantrum, getting up at 3 AM. So maybe being the mom doesn’t make me the given to go back with her.
What do you think? Am I over-thinking this too much?
Who should be the one to go back with Ada during her surgery?
PS–Thank you to everyone who entered my first blog book giveaway! Getting people to enter the contest was a sad, sad awakening to how truly unpopular I am. I am truly grateful to those family and friends (mostly family) who took pity on my poor blog soul and helped me spread the word. We even got to (gasp!) over 100 fans on the Tiny Blue Lines Facebook page. The grand winner was Melissa Oquendo, so congrats to Melissa! I mailed the book out this morning, happy reading!
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